Dissecting Jada Pinkett Smith’s Condition et Will SmithThe wedding of has been a staple of pop culture for over two decades.
So every time one of the two actors talks about it, their social media subscribers grab their scalpels.
Case in point: Pinkett Smith took the time out of her day on Wednesday to inform the masses that “Will and I NEVER had a problem in the bedroom” after being criticized for admitting on the last episode of her Facebook show ” Red Table Talk “that expressing her sexual needs to her husband” has been a journey “.
Gwyneth Paltrow, Oscar winner and founder of Goop, was the guest on the episode – and because Paltrow’s new Netflix series “Sex, Love, & Goop” revolves around sex, the recent episode of “Red Table Talk ”focused on the topic.
Pinkett Smith and her mother, “Red Table Talk” co-host Adrienne Banfield-Norris, were more interested in discussing the topic of developing a healthy sexual relationship through communication with Paltrow.
The trio openly discussed the number of women who find it difficult to clearly articulate their sexual needs to their partners due to taboos or shame, with Paltrow admitting that while she does facilitate a conversation on the subject, she is “still shy to speak out. of my sexual affairs ”. (And this is someone selling a candle inspired by their own vagina.)
Paltrow said that one thing that has helped her become more open with her partner is realizing that as a woman she is conditioned not to speak out when it comes to her sexual needs.
“What happens when you don’t speak up for yourself, neither are you responsible,” Paltrow said. “You don’t say ‘Hey, that’s my half of this’ or ‘This is where I feel like I’m missing’ or ‘Here’s my insecurity.’ “
When a person is vulnerable with their partner and takes responsibility “for ourselves sexually,” she continued, the conversation becomes less combative and it is easier to open up the topic.
Pinkett Smith agreed with Paltrow, suggesting that taking responsibility has to work for the lifestyle entrepreneur and her three-year-old husband Brad Falchuk because “we read you have some of the best sex these days.”
“But I’m a newlywed,” Paltrow replied. “I might be cheating a bit. “
Pinkett Smith replied jokingly, “Me, on the other hand, down and dirty, 26 years old. And when Paltrow noted that it was an “incredible” accomplishment that the two had been together for so long, Pinkett Smith responded with a moan.
“It’s tough,” Pinkett Smith said. “What Will and I talk about a lot is travel. I mean we started [our marriage] at a very young age.
“I think that’s why the accountability part really hit me, because I think you expect your partner to know, especially when it comes to sex. It’s like ‘Well if you love me you should know [what I need]. ‘ You know what I mean? “If you love me, you should read my mind. It is a huge pitfall.
Pinkett Smith said that after years of marriage she has moved beyond that frame of mind.
“You tell me what you need. Tell me what you want, and besides, I know I have to be responsible for doing the same… I’m really trying. It’s uncomfortable, but it’s deeply healthy.
However, Pinkett Smith’s outspoken comments quickly earned her some public rebuke online, with people expressing that they thought she was sharing too much or revealed that her marriage was in shambles. Some tweeted that Pinkett Smith was embarrassing her husband and urged Smith to file for divorce. Headlines also suggested that Pinkett Smith is struggling to maintain a healthy sex life with her husband.
The couple’s marriage has always been a hot topic, but it has gained even more visibility in recent times. Last year, Pinkett Smith admitted she had a ‘tangleWith singer August Alsina during an incredibly awkward episode of “Red Table Talk” with her husband. In September, Smith was candid about the unconventional nature of the couple’s marriage during an interview with GQ, saying in part:
“We have given each other confidence and freedom, with the conviction that everyone must find their own path. And marriage for us cannot be a prison. And I don’t suggest our route to anyone. I am not suggesting this route to anyone. But the experiences that the freedoms we have given ourselves and the unconditional support, to me, are the highest definition of love.