First a recap: Olivia Wilde and Jason Sudeikis started dating in 2011. He proposed in 2013 and they split in 2020, after seven years of engagement. The exact date of their separation is now in dispute, as sources likely in Olivia’s camp initially made it appear as though they were made a year ago and Jason’s sources came out last week to dispute the calendar, claiming that Jason had only found out that Olivia wanted to get out of the relationship. in October, after working with Harry Styles for a few weeks.
It’s also possible that… both versions of the timeline are true in that… well… have you ever heard of a “soft” breakup? Or went through one? It’s not quite ‘let’s take a break’, but rather a slow step backwwww. Usually in these cases one person wants the breakup more than the other, so they start to float the idea slowly. “Something is missing”, or “I just don’t feel like it’s been the same between us”, “I still love you but …” so it’s not a break up yet, but it ‘is a buildup towards a breakup, to give another person time to face the possibility over time. The other person, however, doesn’t understand it that way. They hear it like: “we are going to work through this difficult situation” and “if it was over he / they would have told me, there is still a great chance for us to get there”. And then when the other person moves on, they feel blind. I have been on both sides of this situation. And I have seen all ends of the day happen to others. No one ever agrees on what was agreed because they totally had their own interpretations of what had to be agreed in the first place. I wonder if this is what’s going on between Olivia and Jason. That’s not to say that she didn’t cheat on Jason with Harry – and if that’s really what happened, yes of course, that’s shit. It’s just … in the two stories PEOPLE posted about Jason last Friday that I referred to in my article yesterday, sources close to him still seem to leave open the possibility that they will reconcile, or less expose than Jason always has. hope to fix things’ between them.
But anyway… now to the return Ruth sent. This is from 2012 and Olivia was part of Glamor magazine’s event, “These Girls,” a series of mostly comedic monologues delivered by prominent female artists such as Amy Poehler, Rashida Jones, Aubrey Plaza, Ari Graynor , and more. During her monologue, Olivia talked about her first marriage and when she knew it had to end. By vulture:
“I felt like my vagina was dead,” she says. ” Switch off. Lights out… And you can lie to your loved ones at Christmas dinner and tell them that everything on the front of the house is fishing. But you can’t lie in your vagina.
She went on to say that after coming out of the marriage she had had a lot of sex, but after a while she started to feel empty and lonely. And then she met Jason and fell in love. He was in the audience at the time. Remember, it would have been a year after they started dating and a year before their fiancée. Olivia then continued to ruminate on monogamy, love and commitment. Again by Vautour, ” Wilde said she was happy in her new relationship, except for the nagging worry that the hot monogamy (“We have sex like Kenyan marathoners”) won’t last. So, in an effort to protect herself, she described the rules of Olivia Land, a Utopia relationship.
It started out a bit about how Olivia Land would work… and the specificity of that is why Ruth messaged me about this:
“In Olivia Land, the relationship can only legally last seven years, without the possibility of renewal. This way it will never be out of date. Can you imagine if we were only seven? We would be so nice to each other, so kind, grateful and enthusiastic, like we were eating a really expensive bowl of pasta!
Seven years is how long she and Jason were engaged.
Remember, it was for comedy, but as is often the case with comedy, she was (27 or 28 at the time and) questioning her ideals and values, her perspective on sex and love and relationships. As she later told Vulture: “UUltimately, the monologue was meant to suggest that Olivia Land isn’t working either. And she ended her monologue with a question mark, because finally… has anyone discovered the secret sauce of love and longevity? The only thing, at that point, that she was sure of? The vagina is not fake:
“Sometimes your vagina dies. So you know it’s time to go. There is no reason to sacrifice your femininity and femininity for some kind of weird feeling of responsibility for something that may not be right. I have the impression that too many women are doing this.
If she gave another monologue today, how would that change from the monologue she wrote then?