Chelsea Handler has spoken candidly about how her “outrage” over Donald Trump’s 2016 election victory stemmed from her grief over the death of her brother at the age of nine.
Speaking to Naomi Campbell about her life on the model’s No Filter With Naomi podcast on Tuesday, she admitted her grief has caused her to “never trust men.”
Discussing how she turned to cannabis after it was revealed that Trump was the 45th President of the United States, she said: “Cannabis has become legal in California, I was like, let’s put this shit on the road, and that was my entry drug to meditation and sitting without bouncing off the walls all the time.
“It was the other time my life got messed up”: Chelsea Handler said Tuesday her “rage” after Donald Trump’s victory in the 2016 election was sparked by the death of his brother.
“Coming to my quiet place and sit with my feelings, in my case, I had a brother who died when I was nine, and I just thought I understood that intellectually, you know?
“And when we talked about my outrage, when my therapist Dan and I talked about my outrage at Trump, it was clearly a trigger for me, as it represented the other time in my life my life got messed up. .
“That’s when my brother looked me in the eye when I was nine and said I would be back in two weeks, I’ll never leave you alone with these people, he was talking about my parents, and he went on a backpacking trip and fell off a cliff and died two days later.
“I knew he had an accident but it was a rejection, because as a nine year old girl you told me you would come back and you lied to me.”
Reflection: Chelsea said that after Trump (pictured in 2016) became president, she turned to therapy where she realized her anger stemmed from her loss when she was just 9 years old.
Reflection: Chelsea told Naomi Campbell that Trump’s victory “was clearly a trigger for me, as it represented the other time my life went awry”
Detailing her family’s struggle to mourn the loss of her brother, Chelsea continued: “What happened with my family after this was a rejection because everyone was in their own corner of grief and none of the we couldn’t comfort each other because we were all like this, you know, we were so empty of nothing.
“My father was not the same after my brother died, he was his oldest son, his oldest in our family, his name was Chad, I was the youngest and he was the oldest, so we were kind of bookends.
“So that was a huge aha moment, like oh I get angry with men because the two most important guys in my life, my dad and my brother, both let me down.
“Even though it’s not their fault, as a nine year old girl I learned early on not to trust men, they lie, you can’t trust them.
Retrospective: Chelsea said: “my brother looked me in the eye when I was nine and said I would be back in two weeks, I will never leave you alone… and died two days after that”
Reaction: After her brother’s death, Chelsea said she ‘learned early on not to trust men, they lie, you can’t trust them’
“You have to be fierce, you have to be independent, I don’t want anyone to pay my bills except me, and I don’t want to be dependent on another person in my life because I can’t.
Chelsea said her outrage was probably also the result of ‘delayed heartbreak’ as she ‘didn’t have the tools and I didn’t have the mental equipment’ to cope with her brother’s death at such a young age.
“You can cover that little wound, or that big wound, you can keep covering it up and pretend it didn’t happen, but eventually it’s going to open up and slap you on the shoulder and say ‘hey, you don’t work anymore, you have to deal with it, “now your life and your anger have become unmanageable,” she says.
Honest: Chelsea said her outrage was likely the result of ‘delayed heartbreak’ as she ‘didn’t have the tools’ to cope with her brother’s death at such a young age