Anyway, we started texting and exchanging graduation photos. He still lives in our hometown; I do not. We started talking almost every day.
My problem is that we have so much in common, from family to the same brand of car and insurance company, I started to have a scary feeling. It made me panic to the point that I blocked it.
He’s always been respectful, but for us, having so much in common made my stomach ache. Do you think this is possible? Or is there a chance he’s stalking me?
SCAREDDEAR FREAKED: It might be a coincidence that you have so much in common, but I would never advise anyone who has a gut feeling that something is wrong to ignore it. Listen to your intuition and you will never go wrong.CHER ABBY: My sister-in-law “Brenda” often takes it upon herself to change a baby’s diaper at social gatherings with the family. She never bother to ask the baby’s parents if it’s okay to do so, and they never ask for her help. For years I found it a little strange, but I never said anything to Brenda or any other family member.
Some time ago my in-laws and immediate family were at my son’s baptism party. Several babies from my wife’s side as well as mine were there. My wife’s parents don’t know mine well. Before our marriage, none of our families had ever met.
During the festivities, my wife’s niece – who was still in diapers – appeared to have a full load on her back. Her parents were in another room. Without informing them of the problem or asking their permission, Brenda took the initiative to change the diaper. The child’s mother walked into the room and started scolding Brenda loudly for doing it without her consent. You could tell the mother was upset and scared, as she didn’t know Brenda at all.
After the party was over, my family couldn’t understand why the mother of the child was so upset. They thought she was kind of crazy to react like she did. I fully understand why the mother became upset. Considering she doesn’t know Brenda and having to clean the baby’s private parts when changing a diaper, I don’t understand why Brenda would take this on her own. What’s your opinion, Abby?
STRANGE IN THE EAST
DEAR STRANGE: What your sister-in-law did perhaps suit her own family, but the fact that she changed the diaper of a child whose parents she didn’t know well (and whose parents she didn’t have permission to! ) Was inappropriate. I don’t blame the mother for being upset. Rather than blaming her for reacting the way she did, it’s time someone explained the limits to Miss Brenda.Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.