When my uncle died, he left everything to his two children, including $ 3 million and more. He left me $ 15,000.
One of my cousins died, so whatever my uncle left was shared between my cousin’s wife and his sister. I was hurt enough that he left me nothing.
I am quite sick and have none of my $ 15,000 inheritance. I asked my remaining cousin if I could get $ 5,000 from her because she is very rich. She said no. Do you think asking for the same money they gave my brother is wrong?
My cousin said hurtful things. I know things my uncle had said about her too, but I would never hurt her by repeating them. It’s about to end a 60-year relationship. I wouldn’t ask for money if I didn’t need it.
Niece left out in the cold
Your uncle left you $ 15,000. Your cousin paid money to help your brother, to whom your uncle left nothing. You asked your cousin for money and you were refused. It is not a question of right or wrong. You did what you felt you should do at the time, and you got your answer. I do not know your relationship with this cousin, the state of your finances or your physical health. I also don’t know what you spent the $ 15,000 inheritance on. I will say this: In such situations, always be ready for a no and expect the request to hurt the relationship.
Le Moneyist: I filed a joint tax return with my ex-wife because she’s a gamer and her finances are messy. But I don’t have any stimulation tests – what can I do?
Ask yourself what decisions you made that got you where you are today and, more importantly, figure out how you can plan for the years you have left. You can enroll in Medicare if you haven’t already. The AARP can help seniors find state and federal financial assistance, and can direct you to other organizations that can help you with your financial, physical, and social needs. The Regional Agency on Aging can direct you to local support in your state, and the Administration on Aging can help with housing, long-term care, legal and financial advice.
Right now, the answer to your financial problems seems to lie in those cousins and that $ 3 million legacy. You are not a direct member of the family. They received money from their father. You enter into a co-dependent relationship with these family members by tying your fortune to their sudden wealth. They have nothing to do with Why you are in the position you find yourself in, which may or may not be no fault of your own. However, in most cases like this, all paths of accountability lead back to our own front door, and do not at the door of other family members.
Le Moneyist: I did not receive my stimulus check because I owe child support. It is not fair. My stepchildren are counting on me – what can I do?
You look at what they have and you look at what you have, and maybe you think it couldn’t hurt if they spent a little goodwill or $ 5,000. The $ 15,000 you received from your uncle probably came from their inheritance. It was a small fee, but that doesn’t mean you deserve more. You don’t just look at a gift horse in the mouth, you examine the gift horse’s mouth for gold fillings. Few people like to ask a friend or family member for money, let alone be asked for money. It markets a relationship and erodes trust.
I wish you the best of everything in finding the help you need and hope you will stay safe and healthy, especially in these uncertain times.
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