According to a sociology professor, parents who do not respect limits and do not want to punish children have led to a generation of “infantilized millennials”.
In his book, Why Borders Matter, Frank Furedi, professor emeritus of sociology at Kent University, says that a lack of clear boundaries created a childish generation.
Do not punish children or use moral judgments “deprives them of a natural process” of breaking parental rules and limits, says Furedi.
He says that children develop by reacting against the limits given to them by parents and society, and over three or four generations these parameters have weakened.
This has led millennials in their twenties to act like they did in adolescence and to refuse to embrace adulthood, he explained in his book.
Generation Y was born between 1980 and 1994, so the oldest of the generation are now 40 years old and the youngest are between 20 and 30 years old.
In his new book, Why Borders Matter, Frank Furedi, professor emeritus of sociology at Kent University, says that a lack of clear boundaries created a childish generation
Why Borders Matter addresses the broader question of the lack of boundaries in modern Western society, including between animals and humans.
Furedi argues that the absence of borders has led to a lack of “clear advice” regarding the problems of everyday life and deprived the children of “something against what”.
“Children develop by reacting against these lines, the limits that are set, and it is a very creative process to gain self-sufficiency and intellectual independence,” he told The Times.
He said that the dismantling of these boundaries has weakened the socialization process that parents use to transmit values to their children.
“If what is happening now is that they are knocking on the open doors, which is really what is happening, then the whole development process is compromised,” he said.
“This leads to a situation where the transition from childhood to adolescence takes much, much longer than ever and the transition from adolescence to adulthood also takes much longer. “
Furedi said he once saw a man wearing a T-shirt saying “I’m done with adulthood” which he said is an example of this inability of millennials to embrace adulthood.
“Mothers take their 18 year olds for shopping and their daughters tell them what to wear, not the other way around,” he told The Times.
Fathers do not wear the same clothes as their sons and listen to the same music, he said, adding that this leads to an “almost conscious effort not to be the father of your child or a mother but to ‘be their best friend’.
“They can make their best friends with their peers. They need someone who can admire, someone who can inspire them. There is this distance from adulthood.
The absence of borders has created a blurred line in today’s culture, he said, a line that is also less clear between privacy and advertising, rules and freedom.
Part of this comes from the cultural devaluation of the act of judgment – saying that it has led to a loss of clarity on moral boundaries.
This lost sense of boundaries has encouraged a permanent mood of identity crisis and if society is to be “more open-minded”, things must change, he said.
“I have long supported the implications of gray areas in society and the insecurity this brings to individuals,” said Furedi.
He says that children develop by reacting against the limits given to them by parents and society and over three or four generations these walls have been weakened
“Without the discipline of borders, there is little to guide people as they progress around the world.”
The professor said that the political border between public and private life has blurred in the context of this dismantling of borders, fueling identity politics.
He said this has led to a paradox in the society where young people have been raised without facing their parents’ judgment of their actions, so they in turn refuse to accept the same judgment in others.
Furedi said that “safe spaces”, the idea that certain things should not be discussed for fear of disturbing or triggering people, is an example of their discovery of boundaries.
He says that these spaces are only an opportunity for people to ban those who have opinions that oppose their own and are part of identity politics.
“The problem with identity politics is that each expression used is actually a contradiction,” he said.
“They talk about diversity – this is one of the key values of identity policy – but identity policy is totally hostile to a diversity of points of view.
“So if you support a different story than they support, which is considered racist, offensive, hateful.
DEFINING THE GENERATIONS: FROM SILENT TO CENTENARY
Generations are a group of people born at around the same time and in the same place – although the exact dates of the beginning and end of each generation are uncertain.
They are generally divided into a group that have certain characteristics in common, such as growing up with technologies.
But who belongs to which generation and which characteristics are associated with each age group?
Born in 2010 – today
This is the first generation born entirely in the 21st century and the majority are children of generation Y. They grew up with smartphones and tablets as an important part of their childhood entertainment and will mature in the years 2030.
Generation Z, iGen or Centenaries:
Born from 1995 to 2010
Those born after 1995 grow up in a world that has always been associated with technology for them. They are the most connected, educated and sophisticated. Known as the most open-minded generation to date.
Generation Y or generation Y:
Born in 1980-1994
People born in this group have been described as the Peter Pan or Boomerang generation because they generally return to live with their parents. There was also a delay in marriage or the start of a career. They are considered lazy, narcissistic and inclined to change jobs quickly. But they are also open-minded and seek more work-life balance.
Born from 1965 to 1979
Known as the “middle child” of generations, they are often forgotten. But those in this group are more ethically diverse and better educated than baby boomers. More than 60 percent have gone to college, according to health workers. They are independent, ingenious and autonomous. Generation Y and Generation Z call them “Karen Generation” after the stereotype of the complaining middle-aged woman.
Born in 1944 – 1964
The term “baby boom” was coined after the drastic increase in the number of births after the end of the Second World War. This generation has a strong work ethic, is confident, competitive and goal-oriented. They often put their careers above everything.
Traditionalists or the silent generation:
Born in 1944 and before
This group was to be seen and not heard growing. They were the “silent generation”. A strong, difficult and resilient work ethic, this group considered work a luxury and was among the wealthiest members of society. Loyal employees, they respect authority and work long hours.