One Direction star influencer and sister Louis Tomlinson was devastated when her mother Johannah Deakin died in 2016 after a short battle with leukemia.
Then in 2019, his younger sister Félicité died of an accidental overdose at the age of 18.
Lottie, 21, is now working to highlight the need for better support for grieving youth, discussing the criticisms she has faced for spending the night days after losing her mother.
In an interview for the collaboration The Grief Network x Sister, the makeup artist and entrepreneur spoke about what she went through after losing her loved ones.
Said, “When I lost my mom, I felt like I was thrown into the deep end. I had never, never experienced anything like this and she hadn’t been sick for so long, so I didn’t have much time to get ready.
“The first year was so difficult and so difficult for me. And then with Fizz [Félicité], I’ve been in my mother’s grief for a few years and I add that in addition … I think, however, that I got to the point where I accepted a little bit what happened.
“I tried to find positive points in the situation. It took me a while to get there, of course. But I consider myself lucky because I have had an incredible mom for 18 years, and I have had an incredible sister too, and they can now be together, which is a very nice thought for both of them. It’s like they’re supposed to be together. ”
Lottie also spoke about the different ways people deal with grief and said that some people often question the way others act when they have lost someone.
But she said there was no right way to suffer a loss.
Lottie said, “I think people who haven’t experienced it will watch certain things you do and don’t understand.
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“We had an evening a few nights after mom died, but we were so exhausted, and sometimes you just want to be normal and go out and forget things for the night. We got a judgment for it. I think you should never judge someone else, especially if you have not experienced the same thing. ”
* Read the full interview in The Grief Network x Sister collaboration, available for pre-order in print and digital on Monday here.